I thought I had kicked this tendency long ago! But no, here I was enmeshed in a drama of my own making, feeling powerless and enraged at a perpetrator. Then I realized I was taking victim mode! And by doing this, I was attracting more of the same type of situation, as this is a universal law. Whatever frequency of energy we give off, we attract back to us more of the same.
As Christie Marie Sheldon, who has a website, loveorabove.com, so wisely says about when you start becoming more present in your body and in your life, your soul is happy about this and loves you so much that it will show you what is in the way so you can clear it and have done with it.
I love her method of dealing with “issues”. She says to just “blow it up!” I wrote about this method of clearing in a former blog. I have found it very helpful. She advises to connect to Source energy by expanding your energy up about 300 feet and feeling Source light and then feel it come down into your body into the crown of your head like liquid light. Then bring that light down through the entire body into your feet and visualize it going down into the center of the earth were there is a center of loving light energy. You can visualize connecting with this molten light core of the Earth and bouncing the light back up into your feet and up into your heart. Then visualize expanding this divine light and love out into your city, county, state, country and then out just beyond the planet. At this point it is possible to clear or as she says, “blow up”, whatever is in your energy field of low energetic density, in this case, victim consciousness.
She uses similar wording as this: “Whatever victim consciousness I am holding, and whatever this is about and whatever is causing this, I uncreate, delete and de-story it across all time, dimension, space and reality."
She advises to then fill up that deleted space with what you want by saying something like, “What would it take to be always completely full of Divine light and love, divinely guided, and have everything show up to attract the abundant, prosperous love and laughter filled life of my dreams?” Make up whatever you want.
Right about the same time as this situation happened in my life, I was taking an online course by T. Harv Eker called “The Secrets of Inner Power.” He says to be on the alert for victim consciousness. Victim mentality sets up a “poor me” attitude. An attitude of blaming and complaining is always present when this happens. Victims unconsciously set things up so they have to lose! Victims can’t win. They sabotage themselves. Eker says: “Don’t play weak! Play strong!” He advises saying the declaration: “I am a warrior! I choose to live from strength!”
Spiritual teacher, Byron Katie says it can be very helpful to ask yourself questions in any type of drama producing situation. She advises asking yourself five questions:
1. What is the evidence for this belief?
2. What is the evidence against this belief?
3. Do I know that this thought is 100% true? Why? Is this always true for me?
4. Did I choose this belief or did it develop from my childhood?
5. How would I feel without this belief?
I also find affirmations work well. This affirmation helped me get out of the victim drama I unconsciously created: “I am owning my power in the here and now! I choose to own my power in the here and now!”
Michael Beckwith is another spiritual teacher whose work I find super helpful and inspiring. He points out that many people go in and out of victim consciousness. Maybe even for just a very short time. He says that when we are in victim consciousness, if we take responsibility for everything in our lives and move into forgiveness then we will get out of victim mode and claim our power. Forgive everybody involved, especially the self to release the anger, rancor and animosity lodged inside the self. He says thus we are clearing our channels so we are then available to the broadcast from Source without static. We can then live responding to a friendly universe instead of reacting. When we are responding as opposed to reacting, it is possible to choose how we will respond. He said it is good to forgive the self and others at night before going to sleep in order to have a clear mind and heart.
It is important to know that forgiveness is not the same as condoning behavior and forgiving does not mean we have to be with people who are toxic.
This is a forgiveness process to do when you have a bit of time or before bed. Ask, “Anyone I need to forgive, please come to my awareness now. Anyone that I have harmed, please come to my awareness now.”
Imagine that person is sitting in front of you. Look them in the face and say, “What you did or did not do cannot determine my destiny. I acknowledge that you were doing the very best that you could. I forgive you and set you free. I honor you in your process of unfoldment. You are free and I am free! All is well between us. Peace is the order of the day.”
Where this is appropriate, imagine the person sitting in front of you and say, “I sincerely apologize and release you and me to our higher destiny. I acknowledge that I was doing the very best I could and you were doing the best you could. I am now free and you are free. Peace is the order of the day.”
Another tactic is taking the hugely effective “No matter what!” stance. i.e. “No matter what! I am going to make this happen now! I find saying a mantra like this over and over in the mind is super effective to claim power and ensure I keep taking all the actions necessary. Here are some examples: “I will do whatever it takes! I am willing to be excellent! I am invincible as I meet my goals! Just do it!” The mantra I like best is, “I am unstoppable! No matter what, I will do it! With excellence!”