Neuroscientist have given estimates that on average people think about 60 to 70,000 thoughts a day and that 90% of the thoughts are the same thoughts as the day before.
The same thoughts lead to the same choices and the same behaviors, which lead to the same experiences and produce the same emotions. A person’s biology, brain circuits, neurochemistry, neurohormones and even genetic expression stays exactly equal to how you think, how you act and how you feel.
It has recently been proven that we can change our DNA with how we think and feel, and that this same DNA will be passed to our kids.
Most people wait for crisis, trauma or disease diagnosis before they make up their mind to change. New discoveries in neuroscience has given us ways to change in a state of joy and inspiration instead of pain and suffering.
We have patterns of thinking and behaving that we learned early on in life and continue into adulthood that becomes subconscious programming without our even realizing it.
One very common negative pattern is to beat ourselves up for not achieving something we wanted to do, for making a mistake or having an accident.
The best scenario is to forgive the self immediately and move on, accepting what is, thinking “it is as it is” and let go of negative feelings. Or if possible to see the crazy humor in the situation and laugh about it like it could have been something in a cartoon.
This is so important because there is a Universal Law that the Universe loves you so much it supports you with a “YES!” to whatever thoughts, words and feelings you put out there, and it will reflect back to you what you put out.
So the key to reprogramming oneself from these unconscious patterns is to realize what is showing up in your life — becoming conscious of what is showing up and how you are responding to it.
I am not saying we are responsible for what shows up in our life. But we are definitely responsible for how we are reacting to what shows up, or hopefully responding instead of reacting.
I am saying that some things show up that continually reflect back to us that we are responding in the same exact pattern. For example, with victim mentality — with the mentality that everything is happening TO me. This is a very disempowered feeling and carries a low energetic frequency,
To get out of feeling the victim, the first step is to forgive everyone involved, including the self, and take complete responsibility for your end of the equation — for how you are responding and where appropriate, how you may possibly have contributed to it.
Forgiveness is not condoning the behavior but with forgiveness you are letting go instead of stewing in anger and other negative emotions. That allows you to take back your power.
I remember Oprah saying once that there was a time she felt she was in a dark night of the soul type of space and she called Maya Angelou to talk about it. She said Maya Angleou would not listen to the negativity and Maya Angelou said immediately to give thanks for the experience.
I did not understand it then, but she gave this response because talking about a problem or about negative feelings just expands them. What you focus on expands. It is so easy to get caught up in negativity which takes you down a nasty spiral very quickly and then you feel bad about yourself and at the same time you are going further away from your goals.
The mind has a natural propensity for offering negative thoughts as we are hardwired to look for danger and threats until we rewire the brain to be in Alpha brain state, feel present in the entire body and in the whole brain state. The end goal is to be focused in the present moment.
Gratitude for whatever a negative experience is teaching you is the fastest way to raise your energetic vibration, which will then be reflected back to you in positive experiences. There will be a time lag, but it WILL be reflected back. Gratitude can be a tall order sometimes, but acceptance also neutralizes the negativity and gets you out of resistance, which is a very negative frequency.
By being mindful of what we are feeling and what we are thinking, we get closer and closer to having control over our minds rather than letting our minds have control.
Neuroscientist, Dr Joe Dispenza explains that for example, you can be unconsciously addicted to suffering and all your thoughts and behaviors can equal that emotion and demonstrate this by complaining, blaming and making excuses for the self. These emotions lead to guilt, shame or other bad feelings.
He says you can make a decision to no longer feel this way and then 2 hours go by and all goes well. Since the body is programmed and conditioned to act and feel the way it always has, as you interrupt the chemical continuity between your brain and your body, your body begins to send signals back to the brain that this does not feel right!
Thoughts are then sent out like, “I can never change! It is So and So’s fault that I feel this way” … These signals are sent out in order to return the body back to the original state that is was used to. Research shows that many people return back to the old programming because it feels familiar. It can be uncomfortable to be in an unknown state.
Dispenza explains that the moment you feel uncomfortable, you have stepped into the river of change. This is the neurological, chemical, biological and genetic death of the old programming. That void, that place of uncertainty and unknown is the perfect place to create a new life. If you can become comfortable with the unknown and then decide how you want to be. The best way to predict your future is to create it, not in the known but in the unknown.
In this space you can decide what thoughts you want to fire and wire in the brain and what behaviors you want to demonstrate. He says if you close your eyes and think about how you are going to act, the mere act of rehearsing how you are going to be begins to install the mental circuitry in the brain to be like that experience has already occurred. What that means is the brain has primed its circuitry to lo longer be living in the past but living in the future.
Neuroscience has shown that the body as the unconscious mind does not know the difference between an actual experience in life and an emotion that you created by thought alone. To your body it is exactly the same and your body is then emotionally living in the future instead of the past. Athletes use this to their advantage all the time.
Dispenza says, “What if you said, ‘How would greatness live today? What would be the greatest expression of myself? Can I teach my body emotionally what that future would look like now?”
Before you get up in the morning he advises to ask yourself, “ What is the greatest ideal of myself that I can be today?” And then to rehearse that in your mind before you get up. It will be easier to maintain that modified body and mind all day.
The most difficult thing is to make time to do it, to schedule the time into daily life and consistently make it a practice. It does not take much time though, just consistency, and the rewards are truly astounding.