Having a vision of what you want and being clear about it is a big part of how to manifest what you want in life. What has gotten me in a pickle more than I would like is my trying to control the outcome by insisting on achieving the goal in a specific way or on a certain timeline.
This sense of striving, neediness and pushing gets me frustrated, and fearful that it is not coming about in the right way or soon enough. It is easy to worry that there is something more I need to do to get everything to work right.
This is when it is important to offer up the vision, letting it go to the Universe and surrender it. Let the Universe take care of it, with the faith that the best scenario will come about in the very best way possible.
The practice of surrender is giving over your need to control, to God or the Universe. Giving up your obsessiveness and your belief that you have to make everything happen a certain way.
There is a Universal law that whatever you are focusing on is what you are creating. What you focus on expands.
As you get worried and anxious about how and when your goal will come to fruition, you are focused still on its not being achieved. So this is what you are creating more of, the frustration of it’s not being achieved.
The hardest part is actually to realize and be aware of how you are thinking and feeling about things on a continual basis. For example, If you feel a constant state of lack, that is what is going to keep perpetuating itself.
I remember hearing a story Oprah told about how she wanted so desperately to get a part in a movie. She said she was very upset at one point because after she put the wheels in motion to have this come about, there was a point she did not know how it was going to happen and she thought it looked hopeless.
She said she then just surrendered it all. She prayed about it and gave it all up to God and said, “Thy will be done!” Soon after she did this, she said things came together in surprising and what seemed to be very miraculous ways. She did get the part she most wanted in the film she wanted to be in.
You can feel more relaxed and at peace by letting go and releasing the effort to control things. This allows you to feel more aligned with the Universe and be in a space where you can also be connected with intuition and feel guided. You are no longer feeling resistance to “what is”.
You know you’ve surrendered if you don't have anxiety about your goal. You feel more at ease and a sense of certainty.
The truth is that the Universe will make your desire come to fruition in ways that are so much better than you could ever have dreamed of.
The surrendering process is relinquishing the need to control. With letting go you are thereby fostering faith that the best scenario will come about. The Universal law, “As you believe, so shall you receive” starts to work to your advantage.
Wayne Dyer wrote a book, aptly titled “You’ll See It When You Believe It”. Trust it will come, like you know a light will come on if you flip the switch. Stand in knowing that it will come and feel as if it already has, if you can.
Or just feel satisfaction in any way you can and feel joy in whatever part of the goal that has already manifested, or in any successes that you do have. Focusing on what you do have creates more of what you want.
The key is to know that no matter what your condition, you have the ability to feel good because peace, joy, and love are all within you.You already have them. Even if you are in the depths of despair and in pain, you can focus one nanosecond in the present moment and feel this.
With a deep breathing pattern, you can access Alpha brain state after just a few minutes. Among many many other benefits, Alpha brain state will get you out of negativity and calm the brain.
Feel awareness of every part of the body (if need be, going through one body part at a time to feel awareness of it) and get into the whole brain state. With intention then it is easy to be focused in the present moment.
If you have trained yourself to do this, you can access it quickly and it is a truly blissful feeling! Once you are in the present moment, you know you have everything you ever wanted. Once you feel this and show yourself that you can easily be in this space, then you feel fulfilled and free.